Skinny is Not Ideal - Unless You're Healthy

Ladies, we all been here here. There was always a point of time where you stood by your mirror, sucked your cheeks in and wondered why weren't you skinnier? We would always have some kind of fat-related complain such as "My cheeks are so chubby!" or "My tummy isn't getting flat" or "My hips are too wide" and eventually, we try all the diets in the world.

Over the years, we have seen people evolve. Those who were once chubby are now svelte. I often go up to them and ask for their primary motivation in their journey towards achieving their figures. However, their answers often startle me, because they revolve around "looking good". Very rarely do I hear people losing weight in order to stay fit/healthy/fight obesity. Is the society really going all out to stop eating, simply to look good? Has health really become a secondary factor? Is the word "fit" being replaced by "sexy"?

I can't blame anyone but the fashion industry. They have near-death-skinny models on the ramp, magazine covers and even make skinny mannequins to exhibit their definition of "looking good". They consider size 0 or 2 to be ideal and models who look absolutely gorgeous, fit and REAL are considered plus-sized. Let me start by giving you an example.

This breath-takingly gorgeous model, Robin Lawley (who has a lovely figure, in my opinion) is considered a plus-sized model. Ok, in what universe is she plus-sized? Just because a model is not a size 0 or 2, she is automatically labeled fat. Plus, it is totally demeaning. Would you call a chubby doctor a "plus-sized doctor"? Just because she has hips, she is labeled plus-sized? This is so gross.



Also, the usage of Photoshop on every single bit of skin on magazine covers. Who do these editors think they're kidding? Some of us are competent enough to see through the touch-ups but what about those with insecurity problems? Won't they look at the covers and look down upon themselves?



Please notice that they have photoshopped her cheeks contouring, her hips width, her freckles and spots, her fingers (uh, why???). She looks gorgeous in the original one!

Have to give solid credit to those who are introducing a new definition of beauty and realness.

Debenham, for example, introduced a whole new campaign with girls who look normal! Take a look below.



and another one (claps)



Girls, please remember. Let us not use Victoria's Secret models as a benchmark for gorgeous. They are paid to look like that. I simply cannot recall any other person, working as a non-model, who looks like them. In fact, lets start being real. I am not encouraging anyone to sit down and be a couch potato all day. Go to the gym, exercise, eat well. But not because you want to be skinny. Do it because you want to be healthy and fit. When you have reached that level of fitness, a wonderful body is sure to follow!

This is NOT bashing anyone who is naturally skinny. If you are so, and accompanied by good health, good for u! Again, this is not about looks. This is about health and how good looks will follow, once health is optimum.

Don't lose yourselves on your path towards looking good. Focus on being happy and healthy.

Hope this can be of help to everyone out there :):)

The Weirdest Comments I (and I'm sure you can) Relate To

So, we live in a world where there are so many types of personalities and behaviors, but I can’t help but share some of my favorite (?) comments, questions and statements people I know have passed. Some are bizarre, some quite rude and some just plain hilarious! Not all of them were directed to me, luckily, but some were said/done to people around me and they just stuck to me throughout the years! Enjoy

1. “OH I LOVE THAT MOVIE, BUT TOO BAD BOTH CHARACTERS DIED” – the spoiler alert. EXCUSE ME, some of us paid for tickets to actually sit throughout the entire movie! Did we ask you for an ending spoiler? Even more annoyingly, this sense-deprived human being posts these spoilers on social medias for their 123.456.890 friends to read, like “Oh it was a bad movie! The guy finally got dumped at the end” YEAH I’D LIKE TO SEE YOU GET DUMPED YOU DOOFUS

I have to add though, I personally love movie reviews! I love reading about the sets, soundtrack, screenplay, dialogues, and scripts and then decide whether or not I’d like to go ahead and see it for myself. Having the ending narrated to me-so uncool.

2. “OMAGOD, ARE YOU GONNA EAT THAT CHEESECAKE? WE’RE GOING TO DRINK TONIGHT”- the failed dieticians. There are so many wisecracks out there who judge me when I am about to enjoy my desert or pizza. They lecture me about “being fit” or “staying healthy” or “going organic” and just when I’m about to feel guilty looking at their tiny cauliflower piece, they start drinking their lungs out. I mean, what’s the point of going on ultra diets when you put in a gallon of alcohol later that day? phew


3. “YOU SHOULD REALLY LOSE SOME WEIGHT”- the idiots. Unless you’re a nutritionist, a dietician, a personal trainer or in some kind of health-related occupation, you should really lay off people’s weight. Chances are that, the person knows he/she is somewhat overweight. Plus, they’re food binging with their own money. Shut up

This is a big exception if you’re extremely close to the person in need of this advice. And there are tactful ways to say it instead of throwing it to their face in smugness.

4. “YOU’VE LOST TOO MUCH WEIGHT, GUYS LIKE A LITTLE MEAT”-the men-centric dimwits. HELLO, isn’t this the 21st century? Can’t we live for ourselves instead of trying to please our men all the friggin time? Why are all our efforts perceived to be for solely pleasing men? If our body is changing, its most possibly for ourselves and NOT to make other people see us as desirable. This is not about men.


5. “YOU DON’T DRINK? YOU’RE TRULY MISSING OUT SOMETHING IN LIFE” or “YOU’RE A VEGETARIAN? OH NO” – the ignorants. Yeah, coz life is all about alcohol and meat. I suggest you to wake up, open your window and look out. Oh and stop being ignorant fools. *slaps own forehead*

6. “THANK GOD YOU’RE JUST A –INSERT OCCUPATION 1-, AT MY JOB, WE DEAL WITH MUCH HARDER THINGS”- the superiority complex. People don’t simply understand that different people are made for different jobs. Doctors deal with blood. Teachers deal with cranky children. Administers deal with fussy people. Try jumbling them all up. Wouldn’t all three freak out?

If you underestimate other people’s jobs, you are seriously a pain in the rear. STOP blaming other people who can afford to go for vacations mid-year or visit a theme park mid-week. Even they bring their work with them. If your work requires you to be in physical presence all the time, remember that you yourself opted for this job.


If you are a victim of one of the above, I feel you. BIG time. If you are own criminal offence for one of the above, don't take it too harshly :) We're all allowed a couple of goof-ups. Plus, some people may not share the same views as I do. All in all, its all for good fun.

xx