An Example of TRULY Annoying People

My usual late night random facebooking led me to this unusual set of comments from some weird people. ok, so weird is a broad definition. you may find a whole set of adjectives to describe these people. You know how facebook has become the new online shopping zone? yeah, so i was looking at a picture of a seller selling authentic Prada satchel for Rp. 20.500.000. Steep price, yeah, but for those who can afford it, great! for those who happen to earn more than required, why not? right? not quite so, for some of these people, apparently. Check out some pictures below. (name and picture are obscured to hide their identity and for me to remain decent in blog-posting)

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Translated as : rather than purchasing a bag for that price, i'd rather go for umroh or "berkurban" to acquire some blessings. dont search for materialistic things but prioritize your fate at the end of your life. do some charity with the money.

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Translated as: better feed orphans and roadside beggars rather than making this purchase. the bag is not seen at the end but your right-doings will.

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Translated as: a bag cannot be carried when you die. better provide for the needy for blessings.

Now of course, there are a lot more people with similar comments but I'd rather stay ethical (although I'm pretty sure I've gone somewhat ahead of it)

Anyway, reading these made me pretty mad. How are some people truly superficial? In my opinion, these are examples of people trying to force their beliefs to others.

Point one. What people do with their own hard-earned money is up to them, yes? whether it goes for medicals, charity, luxury, or others. why do people decide what's to be done with other's income?

point two. if they can't afford it, they can go get something else they can afford. no one's forcing them to buy it.

point three. exposing blatantly that you'd rather do charity rather than anything else shows that you do charity for fame and attention instead of wanting to help. show off, kiss-as, fake good-doer. blah.

point four. sure, judge people all you want. its a free country. just dont post them on public forums. you are rude and obnoxious.

forgive my ranting, readers. I am getting a little antsie-pantsie reading about what people do on social medias lately. They forget the key point: be ethical.

cheers!

STOP RAGGING/BULLYING IN SCHOOLS!

I recently watched a movie revolving around a couple who got into trouble, all because they used to rag on a person way back into the past, when they were studying. I'm not going to mention the movie name here (dont want to give spoilers) but feel free to come up and ask because the movie was TOO DAMN GOOD TO MISS!

The movie gave me a spine chill as it felt so real, so deep and so heartfelt. I instantly went into a reminiscent of my school days. Luckily, I never was a part of the whole bullying business. I was a good girl who pretty much kept to myself and my friends. I wasn't a bully but I know people who are. I saw how some of my classmates were treated and I see bullies everywhere, teasing their juniors with inappropriate actions, calling them names and using their hands...

Although, I did get bullied once. It was primary school, year 6. I was very heavy then (not proud of this) and this annoying girl kept calling me names and when I looked back, she pretended it wasn't her. She kept doing so the whole year. I ignored it. Now, I am less heavy and she is unable to lose weight after her delivery. Karma? I dont know but I feel good :p :p Anyway, I dont mean to sidetrack so lets get back on. I want this to be an eye-opener for everyone who are bullies.

Being a victim of bullies are dreadful. they fear each waking day and spend time avoiding places they might meet their bully. School/college becomes not a place of learning or fun but a place where their frightening visions come true. Consequences are severe :( some may encounter basic difficulties such as finding school torturous. but some of them go to extreme lengths such as transferring schools. some even lose their minds and turns insane of the thought of being bullied. in certain parts of america and india, some of them even commit suicide after the embarrassment. Many bullying victims take on years of therapy and treatment in order to help get over the psychological pain that bullying has caused. In many tragic cases, this type of physical and emotional toll on a person can damage their self esteem so much that it results in suicide for the bullying victim.

I asked a few people long time ago, "why do you keep bullying her/him" and their answers are pretty much standard... "its fun!", or "iseng aja", or "she's such an easy target"... yeap, some of the things you do may not matter now. but what you do today may shape someone else's future so beware of what you do. you certainly don't want the guilt of ruining someone's future. and remember, karma will come and haunt you for life.

a little bit of research here and there provided me with the following information so have a go at it:

2010
Nagedra AV, 25, was found dead in Chandigarh's prestigious Post Graduate Institute of Medical Education and Research on 19 April. The doctor had joined this post-graduate institution just two months ago. The police said he jumped to death from the hostel building, his father said he had been pushed. His father said a day ago he had said he was finding it difficult to continue there due to ragging.

Sinmoi Debroy, 21, was found hanging from the ceiling fan, dead, in his hostel room in Chennai on 4 April. It was a private hostel shared by students of various colleges. Most of the 42 SMSes in the Assamese engineering student's mobile phone were threats and abuses from seniors, who also demanded money.

Ajub Ajith, 19, hanged himself to death from the ceiling fan in his house in Thiruvananathapuram on 31 March. He was a student of at the Sarabhai Institute of Science and Technology. He had told his mother that he was being ragged badly, but prevented her from complaining to the principal as, he said, that would make matters worse for him.

In 2010, a female student attached to the Faculty of Humanities and Social Sciences, University of Ruhuna, was semi-paralysed in one limb as a result of ragging she underwent at the faculty canteen/

2009
On 7 March, Aman Kachroo, 19, a first year student of Dr Rajendra Prasad Medical College, Tanda, Kangra, HP, India, had repeatedly complained to his parents about the brutal ragging that took place on the Medical College campus — often by completely drunk third-year students. On Friday night and Saturday morning (March 6–7, 2009), the boy was beaten so badly that he died of brain haemorrhage.

Kelum Thushara Wijetunge, a first year student at the Hardy Technical institute in Ampara, died from a kidney failure after he was forced to do tough exercises and drink excessive quantities of liquor

2007
On 18 September Durgesh Shukla hanged himself from a ceiling fan in his hostel room in Pioneer College, Bhopal. He blamed seniors in his suicide note.

On 8 August Manjot Singh, an MBBS student, committed suicide by consuming a poisonous substance. He did so at his residence in Chandigarh, due to ragging in his hostel at the Government Medical College, Chandigarh.

2006
In November S. P. Manoj committed suicide in his hostel room at the Mahatma Gandhi Institute of Technology, Hyderabad.

On 5 November Azad Nair, 22, a cadet at the Officer's Training Academy (OTA) in Chennai. He had hanged himself from the fan of his room. Prior to his suicide he had told his brother Soumendu over telephone that he was being ragged and humiliated at the OTA and he had pleaded to his father Padmanabhan Nair to rescue him from the OTA.

2005
On 14 December C Abraham, a first year engineering student, hanged himself to death at his residence in Hyderabad. In his suicide note, he mentioned that he was not interested in studies. His parents suspected his suicide to be a result of ragging.

On 5 December Sridhar, 18, hanged himself to the ceiling fan in his hostel room in Chennai. In the English press, only one newspaper in Mumbai reported the incident.

In July Kamlesh Sarkar, 19, committed suicide in a private hotel management institute in Kalyani, Nadia district, West Bengal. The police filed an unnatural death case and not one of ragging.

in Russia, the victim of a high-profile hazing attack, Andrei Sychyov required the amputation of his legs and genitalia after he was forced to squat for three hours whilst being beaten and tortured by a group on New Year's Eve, 2005. The brutal attack on Sychyov, and its horrific consequences highlighted the widespread problem of dedovshchina – or hazing – in the Russian armed forces

I am sure the above information is more than sufficient to help people change their minds before they go around bullying. These acts are against humanity and we all should put an end to this as soon as possible to avoid more victims or deaths.

Alone, I cannot make this happen, so if you are reading this, copy paste the link to share this vital piece on information to everyone you know. Together, we can save a life today. SHARE SHARE SHARE !

Thanks to wikipedia for the research :)

PROUD to be Indian !

It's 1am on a Monday night. random facebooking led me to find a very old string of comments on one of my friend's profile pictures. the comments startled me to no end. it was all about why indians are smelly, poor, black, lazy and what not. it went on to say that we are unworthy people who do not speak english, and tend to live off our parents money until we get married. it went on, but i'll stop here. what disturbed me what not the fact that our race was insulted. what annoyed me was the fact that we are living in the 21st century, and still have uneducated, uncivilized people who have no better jobs to do but stereotype people like that. dont they realize? we live in a multi-culture world and our race is among one of the vastest one to explore.

so for all of you who still think of us as one of the above, if you have a heart, read on. if not, go back and stay in your rat hole.

First of all, we are not all about the slums! if you're dumb enough to think India is nothing but "slumdog millionaire", go back and google Taj Mahal, The Golden Temple and The Pink City. The country is among the quickest to develop and boasts some of the most beautiful scenic environment. Parts of India, yes, are slums, but dont be so quick as to classify us as poor people living in dirt.

Second, we are not all uneducated. The country produces the most doctors, engineers and software analysts annually. Go ahead to IBM in the US. Go and see south indians filling up the office floors. No joke.

Food-mongers, not all indian food give you stomach ache. they dont serve you crappy, dirty food. not all of them, at least :p. if you can't handle the spice, go and eat your usual dose of boring. *I really have to recommend chicken biryani, butter chicken and cheese naan and pani puri!*

One of the most recent notion is that indian women must stay home and be a housewife. not true. some of the brightest pediatricians, dentists, designers and chefs in india are women, they have full time jobs and do more than just providing their family. and one second, even if they all turn up to be housewives, let me just say this. they do EVERYTHING without household help. they act as nurses (we aint got no babysitters!), caretakers of their inlaws (yes we stay with out inlaws and love them as much as our parents), look into the house (clean, sweep, mop, cook, wash, iron, dry) and so much more. that's power, people.

we most certainly do not smell. for God's sake, im not even going to try to explain this one.

Bugger of on the accent! at least we can speak English without missing out on 2nd grade grammar.

we live with our parents until we marry. we do not move out when we are 18. we do not move out when we go to college. although that is personal choice, we believe that a family should stay together. we believe in unity, togetherness and the value of a family.

we are so much more than "kuch kuch hota hai". we hate walking on the street and being called with the theme song. it's not funny anymore.

i guess that pretty much sums most of the disgusting stereotypes ive recently heard and seen. this post does not mean to offend anyone in anyway. Tt was all about taking a stand for my people, my country and myself.

much love xx

Forever in Our Hearts-Our One and Only, We Miss You

This piece I write, is to remember a special lady, and is a platform to revive the old memories we have of her. This piece I write, is not something to exaggerate her strength, or undermine her fears.

She was my aunt, almost like a mother to me. She was joyful, kind, always smiling and was never the one to give up. She was a sister to my father, a daughter to my grandmother, a wife to my dear uncle, a mother to my favorite people of all times. She was my Didi Umeeta, who dedicated her life to make life meaningful for her children and husband. She was one to value every breath of life, and one who always advised me that education is the most powerful tool in the world.

As a child, my grandma told me, she was vivacious, lovable and obedient. She loved her parents and siblings and was always much loved, being the youngest of the three. As a good daughter, she would dotingly call my grandma many times a day, no matter how packed her schedule was, just to say “hi, mom!”, buy that round filling-less bread from BreadTalk my grandma loves and buy slippers for her. Her cakes, oh don’t get me started, her cakes are the reasons to failed diets. Whenever we found out she was baking, we would have a small lunch portion to allow some gobbling during tea time ☺

As a mother and my aunt, she would take us out for dinners, lunches, playlands, shopping and more. I remember my trip to India with her, where she preferred to sit in Starbucks the whole transit, but ended up roaming around with me to satisfy the 12-year-old’s desire to see the whole of Changi. As a much chubbier me, she would give me dresses to try and when they didn’t fit, she would tell me to keep it for “next time”… Guess what, as I am writing this, I am wearing one of her dresses she passed me ☺

Nope, none of the above would justify her as a human being enough.

When we found out that something inside her was damaging her, our hearts broke. She was young, all of 40 years old with her whole life ahead of her. She didn’t deserve to be going so fast… but she was, slowly and slowly….

2 years. It took her 2 long years to finally receive her peace and solace. Unbelievable pain, mental trauma and worry for her family above her trial towards triumph.

It brings a smile on my face to remember that during those 2 years, not one moment she complained about her health, not one moment she blamed God, not one second she wished this illness on somebody else. She got through all of it with a smile on her face, prayers, positivity, courage and faith that everything would be ok. She was one of the bravest people I knew, who handled this ordeal of life with such braveness.

We celebrated her last Christmas in the comfort of her house, with gifts, Santa and children. She looked healthy and happy as ever. A few days later, she was back where she needed to be, under the hands of a doctor…

My birthday. 20th January 2012, she took her last breath under life support. I was one of the few lucky ones who got to say goodbye, and I whispered my promise into her ears, which only she and I know of ☺ The day I celebrated the beginning of my life, was the day we celebrated the end of her tough ordeal, something she didn’t deserve to live with…

We miss her and we wished she was still between us today, happy, healthy and still baking. But her departure was not seen as a battle we had lost, it was a battle she had won, finally won, and deservingly won…

You all will be happy to know that her baking lives on, in the form of her blessed daughter, my sister Neelu, who bakes as good as her mom did. I am so proud of her today, who kept her mom’s dream alive, simply by being as talented as her mom was… And we still get super hungry when we hear Neelu is baking ☺

Forever in our hearts you will be, Di…we love you

Ways to Make Your Life More Meaningful

Okay, before we get in too deep, let me first clarify that I am not a 70-year-old philosopher who has lived life fruitfully. Neither am i a certified self-help speaker who gives books a run for their money. I am your typical 24-year-old who turns the couch pillow when I spill ice-cream or pesto sauce. But, I have recently found ways to make me smile wider and thank more, as compared to the grouchy lil one complaining for every little mishap, as little as the lost wi-fi connection.

So below are few ways I found interesting to add lil happiness into our otherwise dull life (sometimes!). Not necessarily in the following order:

1. Get a job you love
Simple tip, yet so helpful. I have always been lucky enough with my jobs, job title and job description. But I know people who often complain and they wake up every day ruing about the fact that they have to go to work. I mean, you work at least 5 times a week, 8 hours a day. That's more time you spend at home, isn't it? Life's too long to be stuck in the wrong job. Be brave enough and hand in that resignation. PS: first find out what you actually love before suing me for being jobless :p




2. Spend time with children
I work in a school and children are my daily routine. I find that their innocence are irreplaceable and they somehow have a way to win your heart. I have also have my young cousins, aged 7, 5 and 4 who are siblings. You can imagine my babysitting sessions once a week!


3. Spare (and value!) quality time with our folks
Most of us go out with our folks because "we were asked to come along". So wrong. Our parents, yes, they do have their ways at times, but when you find time to listen, you find ways where you find youself to be so similar to them. Ways you could never value if you didn't know them.


4. do some charity
My Sincere Hearts partner, Ekta Melwani and the rest of my crew are sweethearts! They have helped make this dream of ours come true. I find that this point brings out the gratefulness in you, and a certain feeling of satisfaction to your life, knowing that you made at least someone smile today. Not much money to spare? Donate blood to PMI. Health conditions don't support? donate some energy just by helping out :)


5. Click more photos
May they be the duckface, goofy face, pretty face or with your friends, family, special someone or a selfie, photos are fun! No explanation required, I believe?





6. find people who you truly laugh with
Life is way too complicating to be with people who make it even more so. Let go of people who burden you and stick around those who give you tummy aches from laughing.



7. pamper yourself
For you who overthink before spending time or money, ITS OKAY! its okay to get that expensive manicure, its okay to buy more than just one pair of shoes, its okay to facebook endlessly, its okay to have a little more french fries, its okay to lick that cream cheese of the red velvet, its okay! AS LONG AS you keep it under control. SOMETIMES is the key word. Also, spend more time doing what you love, may they be dancing, singing or the like.



Following the above have made me a little happier and I hope you find them helpful too!!!
Much love

21st century shopping? Friend or Foe?

At the risk of sounding completely random, I'm here to share my "sorrows" on being a 21st century shopper. Drama queen much? Anyway, gone are the days when we absolutely have to get our butts off the couch when we need to buy a certain something, may they be clothes, accessories, make-up or shoes! The internet has opened doors to many things, including empty wallets. ugh. Anyway, here is my side of the story. I love to shop! Clothes are okay for me, I dont buy much bags but oh my god shoes. I love shoes. Ok I'm side-tracking. Saturdays would be my day of shopping, after a long week of campus and studying. Towards the end of the month, when I simply cannot afford to go more shopping, I spend my day watching TV at home, or go to a friend's house to chill, or head to the cinema for a "friendly-for-the-wallet" entertainment :p :p. It's literally that simple. But lo and behold, my fellow shopaholics. welcome to the 21st century, where the digital gap is closing down and we are, in a way, to say the least, screwed. If we do not head to the malls, the malls are literally coming to us in the comfort of our houses. And they are so comfortable. Choose, pay and wait for it to come in a few days. We dont have to go to the ATM to conduct payments. Say "Ola" to mobile banking! Aduh ribet deh! There is no such thing as not shopping anymore now, isn't it? If not the mall, its shopping sites. If we avoid shopping sites, our buddies in Facebook are also turning to salespeople. And the are so convenient, we can't help but to try it. So now what? Do we thank Bill Gates-esque individuals who have made the world so much easier? Or do we curse the fact that our shopping budgets are getting thinner and thinner as the technology advances? I'm off, lads, I think I like that pair of shoes on my friend's Sale album. Ciao!

Are You in Charge of Your Own Happiness?

English Vinglish is by far one of the best movies made this year and coming out from the cinema, it got me thinking...a lot...Have you ever realized how incompetent you are in a certain field? Have you ever felt so flawed that you shy away from yourself? Have you looked in a mirror and wished for a better version of yourself? You'd by lying if you said you haven't. Looking back at the past years, I realized I grew up with a lot of insecurities. Better looking friends, skinnier relatives, lesser grades compared to my classmates and so on. I was miserable, up to a certain extent. But you know whose fault was it? It was my very own. I was so busy looking up at others and forgot to take charge of my own happiness. I'm way past all that now and have learnt to be a happier person and for those of you who are still there, read on! :) Happiness is only defined by you and you alone. Remember, you are good at heart and your flaws, no matter what they may be, make you an even more wonderful individual. Be sincere and hold on tight to what you believe in, because like it or not, you are in charge of your own happiness. The world is sometimes a cruel place and what you do may not be pleased by everyone out there, but it does not mean that they can make you feel inferior. Live your life at ease and cherish the small things in life. When you learn to do that, the old life you are living now will feel unbelievable strange, in a good way, because the world as you see it, is from a whole new perspective. I know, I know, some of you may be thinking, "easier said than done!". Oh I agree, but we certainly must try. Remember, no body can make you feel inferior without your consent. Take charge and BE HAPPY!!! You are loved. For at least one person, you are their world.